I am currently reading the book “Tiny experiments: how to live freely in a goal-obsessed world” by Anne-Laur Le Cunff, 2025, New York Avery, Random House.
The work is predicated on the concept that our highly goal-driven society is not healthy for our personal lives, and posits an entirely different approach, by making small experiments, and play, as children learn, and by doing so, we can navigate a world of uncertainty much easier, and change our attitudes about what’s possible.
“Can you even hear yourself when sao many voices tell you what to do next? In the thicket of all those exhortations to write your story within the well-defined conventions of cognitive scripts, it’s easy to become disconnected from yourself and your curiosity. Fortunately, just like you have learned these scripts, you can unlearn them.” —p. 48
In a way, this is very much what Cognitive Behavior Therapy attempts to do, by erasing our old “tapes” and rewriting them so we can achieve better outcomes than running the old tapes gets us.
Cognitive scripts are a newer branch, and it has much in common with CBT, but it goes further in defining what’s happening.
I found the paragraph uplifting and not a little bit hopeful, and perhaps this new way of looking at things will be better. Playing like children, learning through experimentation, not taking failures of an experiment personally, but an opportunity to experiment more,… ; how can this be bad?
Until next time, with love 💜,
Tamara, aka tamouse__ 🐭